So, you’ve decided to take the first step toward a healthier lifestyle. You have your meal plan in place and your workout time scheduled in your calendar. You are so excited to embark on this new health journey, but when you bring it up with your spouse, they are less than thrilled. How do you stay on track with your health goals when you don’t have the support of your partner? It can be extremely challenging when you aren’t on the same page, but there are a few ways to stay on track, with or without them.

Plant the seed

You can’t force anyone to work out or eat healthy food and nagging someone about it will just make them resist even more, but you can start small. Ask your partner to go for a walk with you after dinner one night or opt out of buying that pint of ice cream on your next shopping trip. Starting with a few minor tweaks can ease them into the idea of being healthier.

Don’t allow them to be an enabler

It can be really hard to stay strong when you have someone who enables your unhealthy behavior. When your partner brings home a dozen doughnuts, saying no can seem virtually impossible. Prepare yourself for when these moments inevitably arise. Keep healthier treats on hand so you can easily turn down the junk. Try making these delicious double chocolate muffins that will satiate that breakfast sweet tooth without busting your gut.

Ask for help

We all want to feel needed, so asking your partner for their advice and support can lead to them being more on board. The more you can talk about it, the more comfortable they will be with it. If you find an interesting article about healthy living, share it with them. You never know what may pique their interest.

Create a rewards system

Set goal milestones and each time you reach that milestone, create a reward and try to bring your partner on board. For example, for every week you work out five days a week, you get a point. At the end of the month, whoever gets the most points owes the other one a 20-minute foot massage. Make your rewards as PG or R rated as you want. A little friendly competition can be very motivating.

It’s no secret that maintaining a healthy lifestyle is easier when you have support. You may not be able to convince your partner to join you in your health journey right away, change doesn’t happen overnight, but you can incorporate small shifts in your daily life that will help you stay on track and may motivate your partner to get involved as well.

What is your favorite motivation you use to stick to your healthy goals?